Hey Beautiful Human, Let's Talk About Fear

it can feel like drowning - like gasping for air

I see you there, carrying that weight in your chest. That constant hum of alertness that follows you from morning coffee to midnight thoughts. I want you to know something: you're not broken, and you're definitely not alone.

Fear gets a bad rap, doesn't it? But here's what I've learned through my own messy journey – fear isn't your enemy. It's actually your oldest friend, the one who's been trying to keep you safe since day one. The problem isn't that you have fear; it's that your beautiful, sensitive system might have forgotten how to turn the volume down.

When Your Nervous System Won't Let You Rest

You know that feeling, right? When it's like you're constantly braced for impact, even when you're supposedly relaxing on the couch? Your nervous system is stuck in what we call sympathetic dominance – basically, your internal alarm system got stuck in the "on" position.

And honey, when you're living in that space, everything becomes about survival. Fight, flight, freeze, fawn – your system cycles through these responses like it's trying to solve a puzzle that doesn't have a solution. You lose touch with that deep knowing, that trust in yourself and life's rhythm that used to feel so natural.

I get it. I've been there too. The more activated we get, the more we do the exact things that keep us spinning. We clench when we need to soften. We rush when we need to pause. We disconnect when we need to come home to ourselves.

The Power ig Slowing Down

Here's something that might sound completely backwards when you're in the thick of it: the way through isn't to fight harder or think faster. It's to do the one thing your activated nervous system is convinced will get you killed – slow down.

When your mind is racing and your heart is pounding, your beautiful, logical brain (your neocortex) basically goes offline. You can't think your way out because thinking requires the very thing that feels impossible: calm.

So what if – and I know this sounds scary – what if you tried the opposite? What if, instead of fighting the wave, you let yourself breathe a little deeper? Instead of running from the sensation, you got curious about it? Instead of abandoning your body, you placed a gentle hand on your heart?

Coming Home to Yourself

I want you to imagine something with me. Picture giving your nervous system the most generous gift: the message that you're actually safe right now. That there's no bear in the room, no immediate threat to your existence. Just you, in this moment, with permission to exhale.

When you dare to get still – really, truly still – something magical happens. Your system starts to remember that life isn't just about surviving. Your body begins to trust that you can handle whatever comes up, that you don't have to be on guard every single second.

And from this softer place, you can finally hear what's been trying to reach you all along: your own voice. Your desires. Your dreams. The vision of who you're becoming when you're not busy just trying to make it through the day.

You Get to Choose

Sweet soul, I want you to know that the flow of life includes fear – it always will. But it doesn't have to be run by it. You get to learn how to be with fear without letting it drive the car. You get to discover that you can hold yourself through the scary moments, that you can be your own safe person.

The next time your system starts spiraling, remember this conversation we're having right now. Remember that the bravest thing you can do isn't to push through – it's to pause. To breathe. To place your hands on your body and whisper, "I'm here. I've got you."

Because you do. You've always had you. And from that place of gentle self-holding, you can create anything your heart desires.

You're so much stronger and more resilient than you know. I'm cheering you on. ✨

Un-wiring old memories - opening up to a new experience. 

With so much Love from me to you